{"id":289,"date":"2021-10-20T09:58:49","date_gmt":"2021-10-20T07:58:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/helperz.ro\/blog\/https-blog-helperz-ro-externalizarea-ingrijirii-copilului\/"},"modified":"2023-12-05T14:00:09","modified_gmt":"2023-12-05T12:00:09","slug":"externalizarea-ingrijirii-copilului","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/helperz.ro\/blog\/externalizarea-ingrijirii-copilului\/","title":{"rendered":"E\u0219ti preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 apelezi la ajutor pentru \u00eengrijirea copiilor t\u0103i? – Helperz Blog"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lectur\u0103 de: <\/span> 4<\/span> minute<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00cenc\u0103 din primul moment \u00een care p\u0103r\u0103sim incinta spitalului \u00eempreun\u0103 cu primul copil, c\u00e2teva lucruri devin extrem de clare:<\/p>\n

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  1. Suntem sub-califica\u021bi \u0219i<\/li>\n
  2. Suntem cei mai buni p\u0103rin\u021bi pentru omule\u021bul nostru.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Am fost arunca\u021bi \u00een aceast\u0103 aventur\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103 \u0219i cu calific\u0103ri care ridic\u0103 semne de \u00eentrebare.<\/p>\n

    \u0218i totu\u0219i, \u00een fiecare zi ne descurc\u0103m. Cumva copiii no\u0219tri cresc (at\u00e2t de repede), \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 (at\u00e2t de mult), vorbesc (at\u00e2t de tare) \u0219i ne dep\u0103\u0219esc.<\/p>\n

    \u0218i apoi, este timpul s\u0103 predai \u0219tafeta.<\/p>\n

    Cum m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc pentru a preda \u0219tafeta \u00eengrijirii copiilor mei<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    Unele familii trebuie s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i lase copiii \u00een grija altei persoane extrem de devreme. Al\u021bii a\u0219teapt\u0103 un an, doi, sau dou\u0103zeci (ar fi bine s\u0103 nu, totu\u0219i).<\/p>\n

    Nu pot exista niciodat\u0103 suficiente cercet\u0103ri, certific\u0103ri, verific\u0103ri de fond sau vizite la fa\u021ba locului pentru a atenua acest instinct primordial \u0219i anume, sentimentul de fric\u0103. Copilul \u2013 care a depins de partenerul t\u0103u \u0219i de tine pentru aproape totul \u2013 este acum \u00een grija altcuiva. Chiar dac\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2rzia\u021bi aceast\u0103 eliberare p\u00e2n\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta adult\u0103, \u00een cele din urm\u0103 copilul \u00ee\u0219i absolv\u0103 propria grij\u0103 \u0219i va veni timpul s\u0103 proceda\u021bi la fel.<\/p>\n

    Nimic nu te poate preg\u0103ti pentru asta.<\/p>\n

    \u0218i este 100% \u00een regul\u0103.<\/p>\n

    Suport pentru g\u0103sirea \u00eengrijirii copiilor<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    Pentru munca practic\u0103 de g\u0103sire a unui \u00eengrijitor pentru copii, exist\u0103 diverse solu\u021bii. Oriunde v-a\u021bi afla, exist\u0103 cu siguran\u021b\u0103 m\u0103car un grup regional de Facebook, dac\u0103 nu chiar mai multe, din care s\u0103 alege\u021bi, site-uri de anun\u021buri \u0219i cel pu\u021bin o platform\u0103 online excelent\u0103 de \u00eengrijire a copiilor<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Dar munca emo\u021bional\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi revine \u021bie, partenerului t\u0103u \u0219i poate terapeutului.<\/p>\n

    Predarea controlului nu este ceva care ne vine natural. \u0218i asta f\u0103r\u0103 a \u021bine cont de c\u00e2teva milioane de ani de instincte biologice.<\/p>\n

    A\u0219adar, cum pred\u0103m \u0219tafeta \u00eengrijirii copilului, altcuiva?<\/p>\n

      \n
    1. Nu uita c\u0103 nu de\u021bii controlul<\/li>\n
    2. Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi c\u0103 num\u0103rul 1 este \u00een regul\u0103<\/li>\n
    3. Recunoa\u0219te c\u0103 tu \u0219i copilul t\u0103u ave\u021bi nevoie de alte persoane<\/li>\n
    4. Bucura\u021bi-v\u0103 de timpul pe care \u00eel ave\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Nu sunt \u00een control<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      Ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eencepem prin a ne aminti c\u0103 nu de\u021binem controlul \u2013 nu chiar. Nicio cantitate de c\u0103ptu\u0219eal\u0103 de protec\u021bie, ori reguli de cre\u0219tere nu pot men\u021bine copilul complet izolat de pericolele lumii exterioare.<\/p>\n

      Ce \u00eent\u0103rire mai bun\u0103 pentru acest adev\u0103r incomod dec\u00e2t o pandemie global\u0103?<\/p>\n

      Da, dac\u0103 am avut am\u0103giri cu privire la puterea de protec\u021bie \u00een trecut, ultimii 1-2 ani le-au spulberat cu totul.<\/p>\n

      Clar nu este un articol despre COVID, \u0219tim c\u0103 tot ceea ce a\u021bi citit \u0219i fiecare conversa\u021bie pe care a\u021bi avut-o \u00een ultimele 18 luni a fost despre COVID \u0219i este un subiect suprasaturat.<\/p>\n

      Anul \u0219colar a \u00eenceput. \u0218coala arat\u0103 altfel anul acesta. Din nou, pentru al treilea an consecutiv. \u0218i, mai ales pentru cei cu copii sub 12 ani, este plin de anxietate \u0219i complica\u021bii.<\/p>\n

      Dar oare nu e a\u0219a mereu?<\/p>\n

      Dac\u0103 nu ar fi COVID, la ce g\u00e2nd te-ai stresa \u0219i \u00eengrijora pentru copiii t\u0103i?<\/strong><\/p>\n

      Eliberarea de control este perfect normal\u0103<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      S\u0103 ne reamintim c\u0103 a nu fi pe deplin \u00een control este \u00een regul\u0103 \u2013 \u0219i, \u00een general, mai bine pentru copiii t\u0103i (\u0219i pentru tine). Este bine s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219ezi capacit\u0103\u021bile, dar este bine \u0219i s\u0103-\u0219i aminte\u0219ti limit\u0103rile tale. Speri pentru copiii t\u0103i s\u0103 fie mai buni dec\u00e2t tine, \u00een toate modurile posibile. Dar dac\u0103 le controlezi pe deplin mediul \u0219i experien\u021bele, cum se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla asta?<\/p>\n

      Aceast\u0103 aparen\u021b\u0103 de control este un miraj.<\/p>\n

      Eu nu sunt \u00eendeajuns; ei bine, nimeni nu este.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      Este logic pentru copil s\u0103 nu ajung\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be vreodat\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat o limb\u0103 pe care noi nu o vorbim, s\u0103 nu \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 situa\u021bii pe care nu \u00eel \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219esc sau s\u0103 empatizeze pe deplin cu o perspectiv\u0103 pe care nu o posed\u0103.<\/p>\n

      Da, oric\u00e2t de greu ar fi s\u0103 recunoa\u0219tem uneori, nu suntem suficien\u021bi pentru copiii no\u0219trii. Este \u00een regul\u0103 \u2013 nici pentru noi nu este suficient. Avem nevoie mai mult dec\u00e2t unul de cel\u0103lalt pentru a cre\u0219te \u0219i a prospera. Eliberarea copiilor \u00een grija altcuiva \u2013 \u00een cele din urm\u0103, poate s\u0103 ajute ambele p\u0103r\u021bi.<\/p>\n

      Exist\u0103 o parte frumoas\u0103 \u00een a te deta\u0219a pu\u021bin, oferindu-le mai mult spa\u021biu pentru a gre\u0219i, a \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba \u0219i spa\u021biu pentru a te surprinde, pentru a-\u021bi ar\u0103ta c\u00e2t de bine pot s\u0103 se sus\u021bin\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 se adapteze singuri p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103. O parte din a fi cel mai bun p\u0103rinte pentru copilul t\u0103u este s\u0103 le oferi libertate \u0219i s\u0103 le oferi oportunit\u0103\u021bi de a \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba de la ceilal\u021bi.<\/p>\n

      \u0218i, la nivel practic, personal, ve\u021bi avea \u0219i mai mult spa\u021biu: libertatea de a urm\u0103ri alte lucruri, de a redescoperi p\u0103r\u021bi pe care le-a\u021bi pus la p\u0103strare.<\/p>\n

      \u00cen loc de concluzii:<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      Nu \u00ee\u021bi fie team\u0103 s\u0103 ceri ajutor!<\/p>\n

      Este mult mai u\u0219or s\u0103 ne bucur\u0103m de copii no\u0219tri \u0219i de timpul petrecut \u00een familie, dac\u0103 prioritiz\u0103m existen\u021ba momentelor doar pentru noi.<\/p>\n

      Nu ne d\u0103m seama imediat, dar adesea, c\u00e2nd lu\u0103m personal micile certuri cu copiii, c\u00e2nd sim\u021bim c\u0103 nu mai avem r\u0103bdare \u0219i suntem dep\u0103\u0219i\u021bi, de fapt resim\u021bim propriile probleme, lipsa timpului nostru, de re\u00eenc\u0103rcare a bateriilor.<\/p>\n

      Acesta este momentul \u00een care ar trebui, f\u0103r\u0103 dar \u0219i poate, s\u0103 cerem ajutor (poate chiar partenerului) sau s\u0103 externaliz\u0103m.<\/p>\n

      Asta poate \u00eensemna s\u0103 aducem pe cineva c\u00e2teva ore s\u0103 cure\u021be casa, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 putem lucra \u00een timp ce copii dorm \u0219i s\u0103 ne putem juca cu ei c\u00e2nd se trezesc, sau poate \u00eensemna \u0219i angajarea unei bone ocazionale<\/a>, pe timpul serii, sau pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 l\u0103s\u0103m copii la gr\u0103dini\u021b\u0103, la program prelungit.<\/p>\n

      Doar tu \u0219tii ce este mai bine pentru tine \u0219i cum s\u0103 te \u00eentorci la o stare de echilibru.<\/p>\n

      Nu te epuiza \u00eencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103 le faci tu pe toate, \u00een timp record; renun\u021b\u0103 la control \u0219i bucur\u0103-te de timpul c\u00e2\u0219tigat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Nu pot exista niciodat\u0103 suficiente cercet\u0103ri, certific\u0103ri, verific\u0103ri de fond sau vizite la fa\u021ba locului pentru a atenua acest instinct primordial \u0219i anume, sentimentul de 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